Forgiveness Lessons

04 Feb

I received some upsetting news today about a situation that I thought was resolved. The letter in the mail triggered a flood of emotions that I thought were in the past. But the intensity of my emotional reaction was so strong that I decided to take a few minutes to examine what was really going on.

Guess what – the judgment and negativity I thought was dead is alive and well!

After I calmed down and stepped away for a few minutes, I realized that I had not really dealt with these emotions. They were sitting on a shelf, ready to come crashing down the instant a particular set of circumstances occurred.

Once I recognized that I still had not dealt with the core issue of self-criticism and judgment, I decided that today was the day.

I decided to use the forgiveness steps that I included in “The Faithful Companion Guide” and see what happened. The following is a short synopsis of the results.


1. Identify/describe the Trigger or Person;
2. Invite Jesus into the situation;
3. Ask myself if I still felt the same way after I turned the situation over to God;
4. Look at the situation again, knowing that Jesus is by my side, ready to guide me towards resolution.

After taking the time to move through these steps, I felt calmer, more in control and capable of creating a plan of action to move forward. I was no longer paralyzed by anger or fear (at myself and the other person). I felt the loving and secure presence of Jesus blanket me and I could think clearly again.

The best part was — I freed myself from letting that one piece of mail ruin my entire day.

Try it your self and let me know your results. To learn more about the Forgiveness Steps, please go to


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2 responses to “Forgiveness Lessons

  1. Maggie L R

    February 5, 2012 at 6:05 am

    It is so easy to harbour resentments and bitterness. They hide underneath waiting to attack again. I am so glad you are free. Your model is a good one. We use a similar way in our healing ministry.

    • Kathryn Eriksen

      February 6, 2012 at 3:24 am

      Forgiveness is the salve that will heal the world. It is the way to peace, joy and love.


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